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I Need To Stop Shoulding Over Myself

There's a saying that I'm very much here for: 'Don't should all over yourself'. I don't know the origins (hit me up if you know), but I think it's one of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard. The problem for me is that I very rarely practice this advice. I'm the first person to be everyone else's cheerleader, but often fail to be my own. As a shy introvert, I find it hard to shut off the brain that is constantly ticking over every decision and every event that happens, that I find myself standing still a lot of the time.

I talked about taking the leap in my last post and I've definitely improved with taking chances with certain things, but there's still a lot of other things I haven't had the confidence to do, and one of these is my blog. I have so many ideas and drafts for posts on topics I want to talk about, but for various reasons I haven't posted them. It might be that I don't think people will be interested or it might be that the pictures I'd taken were sat on my phone or camera for a few months and decided it was too late to use them. But what does that even mean? Too late in what context? Take the below dress for example; this was my favourite dress of 2018 but I didn't post the pictures on my blog during the summer so thought I should just leave them unused. The thing is, it obviously doesn't matter when I use the photos because guess what? It's MY blog! I've never succumbed to the pressures of staying "on trend" or wearing things seasonally, so why have I left so many outfit pictures unused? It's silly really and telling myself things I should do for my blog has rendered my blog like a ghost town. So here are the photos and the dress of dreams I loved wearing this summer:

Dress: Coast^
Sandals: Dorothy Perkins^
Cardigan: H&M
Sunglasses: Spitalfields Market

Isn't it a beaut?! And although I wore this dress during the summer, I could easily throw on some tights and biker boots for more of a grungy white christmas look.....this might actually be my christmas dress if I can trust myself not to spill gravy down the front. It's very comfy and true to size which is always a bonus in my eyes, and I usually hate slips that come with dresses as they tend to be smaller than you need, but no problems with this underlay.

To think these pictures might not have graced my blog seems ridiculous now, but it's funny what your brain convinces itself. Don't get me wrong, the word should is perfectly valid in a lot of instances, but it is also used way too often when it comes to taking a risk or following the norm of how one "should" live their life. I'm going to try and stop shoulding myself because it does nothing but stifle me from doing things I really want to do, and that includes content for my blog.
I'm going to be much bolder on the blog in the new year and definitely blog more often. I never lost the love for blogging but blogging seems to have taken a back seat over the last 18 months. Some of my favourite bloggers aren't blogging as much as they used to, instead opting to use Instagram as their source of engagement. I get it; it's a lot easier to post a few pictures, write a short caption and put your feet up at a job well done, but I'm still a huge fan of blogs and if I don't get regular content from some of my favourite bloggers, I want to at least be regular for my own blog. So be sure to look out for more from me in the new year.

So all that's left for me to do is say Happy Holidays. I hope your break (if you're lucky enough to get one) is spent doing exactly what you want with love and happiness.

Until next time.

Love and hugs,
Isha xxx

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