Saturday marked the official start to Summer, so it's time for another edition of 'Find It In Everything' - Spring. Bar the odd heatwave it hasn't really felt like spring, but it of course didn't stop me from taking loads of pictures. Below are some of my favourites:
I was recently featured in an article by Katharine McEntee, for Bustle, entitled '15 Feminine Fashion Bloggers Who Use Their Traditional Sartorial Femininity In Empowering Ways'. It got me thinking about the way I define myself and my style, but also how I feel about seemingly falling into society's ideal of how a woman should dress.
'Dress' being the key word here because I
practically live in dresses, and have done for the last handful of years or so,
but it hasn’t always been that way.
My mental state when I was in my teens and
early 20’s, in regards to my body, was in a bad way. I hated the way I looked
and hated that I did not fit into the media’s ideal of how a young teenager/
woman should look like. I was already at a disadvantage being black, but then I
had to contend with my body growing little by little as I got older – and not
in the good way. My hips widened, my tummy grew along with my upper arms and
thighs and it didn’t matter what I did to stem the flow, my body had a life of
its own whether I liked it or not. With that, I decided that I needed to wear
dark jeans, baggy tops and hide my “incorrect body” as much as possible. I
didn’t feel girly, I didn’t feel sexy, didn’t feel desired or worthy of
positive attention, didn’t want anyone to see me – if I had an invisibility
cloak (ala, Harry Potter), I would have lived under there.
Being feminine at that time was the last
thing on my mind and I certainly didn’t identify with the word. Feminist I got,
but feminine? Nope. Because I identified with being a feminist, in my naivety I thought it was impossible to be girly and wear makeup, etc. I was a full-on
tomboy and at the time I felt like that was what I was supposed to be…. but
then I started reading plus size blogs. Suddenly I had girls and women talking
about being a feminist while wearing girl clothes: skirts, dresses, fitted tops
were all on show and I was introduced to a world I didn’t know existed. My
mindset started to slowly but surely shift and my style has changed so much from those teenage years, but it has been over the last four or so years where my style has settled and now I really feel like I have homed in on my style and how I identify myself. It’s funny, the
change in me didn’t come from the ignorant media at all, it came from my fellow fat
babes showing the world that women could be anything they wanted to be without
apology, yet there have been various comments and posts made over the last couple of years about female bloggers falling back into the media’s ideal of beauty. Falling back into what?! For me, the message has always been the same- wear what you want when you want
and to never allow yourself to be dictated to irrespective of what people had
to say.That’s the message.
The wonderful thing about plus size
blogging is that there is an array of people dressing to their own style and
refusing to stay hidden and quiet just because the world is scared of a fat
body. Surely it shouldn’t matter how it’s done as long as it’s done, right?! It
shouldn’t matter that one wears jeans and one wears a skirt; if one wears
dungarees and the other wears a dress, because promoting self-love and acceptance isn’t about an ideal, but instead, an expression of how you feel
about yourself and how you celebrate yourself, through your clothes.
That’s how it is for me. After years of
hiding myself and hating my body, I have finally reached a place where I feel
nothing but utter love for what I see when I looking in the mirror. I will not
have anyone take that away from me or tell me that I have fallen into any sort
of ideal. How I dress my body is on my terms and the dresses I have in my
wardrobe were and are my choices. It’s so hard to feel comfortable in your own
skin so whatever we need to do to feel that way should be embraced and
encouraged by those around us.
Be feminine, be a Goth, be androgynous, be
a tomboy; there is no-one to answer to but yourself!
I wore this outfit a few Saturday's ago for a trip to
What's so great about this dress is that it looks like
two separate pieces. The top half is almost designed as a crop top with a
slight overhang over the skirt, but it's actually one piece with the two parts
connected with a cotton underlay. Such a cleaver design and perfect for a
Spring afternoon in the sun.
I love the casual simplicity of this outfit, but the
embroidery along the bottom panels bring a touch of something fancy. Dorothy
Perkins are one of the first places I go when I want a cute dress that's light
and comfortable, and this one doesn't disappoint. The dress is 100% Cotton and
incredibly airy so I had no trouble weaving my way through the hustle and
bustle of a food market, particularly over the weekend.
I decided to wear my cute plimsole thingys from Next
and I'm trying to get as much wear out of them because they are falling apart
after years of me stomping around the city in them. It's a shame as they're my
favourite trainer-esk shoes but since I bought them way back when I was at uni,
I'd say they've served me pretty well. The bag was a gift from George at ASDA
after I attended one of their events. I love the colour, the size is fab
and I know I'll get a lot of use out of it in the coming months.
I don't do casual often but it is fun to switch it up
No, I didn't go into early retirement, haha. You know
when you get to a point where life just gets ahead of you and you just loose
track? Well that has been me for the last few weeks, but I'm back with the most
Do you remember this post way back when? Well in said
post I mentioned I had bought two Voodoo Vixen dresses - this is the second. I've
worn this dress so much recently and you can see why: lots of colour, a great
cut and length, and perfect to dress down into a Spring (yes, it's still
Spring!) sandal and shade wearing outfit. On this occasion I decided to dress
it up a little with a shrug and some cut peep-toe flats. I don't know why people
are under the impression you can't wear tights with peep-toe shoes; I
personally love it and think the look works really well with the dress. I love
the little bows at the end and the touch of gold breaks up the black of the
tights and shoes.
The thing that's great about Voodoo Vixen is that
their dresses (or at least the two that I have) are so easy to wear and
breathable. This one in particular has a lovely stretch to it and as the
days get warmer, feeling like I can easily manoeuvre myself around London
amongst the heat and the people, is an absolute must. The pattern of the dress
is bright and wonderfully colourful (despite the black base), I adore the red piping
along the bust, and the red buttons down the middle are a cute finishing
Voodoo Vixen are slowly expanding their plus size range
and that's wonderful news for us vintage loving gals. I'll definitely be hoping
to add to my collection soon!
'til next time.
Love and hugs,
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