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Pre Spring Clean

Sooooo, falling in love with someone when the feeling wasn’t anywhere close to be being mutual, probably wasn’t one of my smartest moves (d’oh!). I don’t regret the feeling as being in love is amazing and I've been lucky enough to experience it three times over (the other two times were thankfully mutual); and with spring on the horizon, I couldn't think of a better time to take steps to move on. A situation which causes more sadness and tears than happiness and laughter isn't how one should spend a life. I'm really not sure what life has on store for me, but I'm looking forward to this new adventure.

Something else I've found freeing is being cut off. When you're someone like me who apologises far more than you should, having someone remove you from all existence is indeed incredibly hurtful, but also freeing in a weird way. You can sometimes find yourself shackled by the way other people view you and perceive your behaviour; more often than not, their minds are already made up in regards to your guilt and although you may know in your heart said perception is not at all accurate, you can't change peoples' minds and you'll exhaust yourself trying to do so.

I'm just too old for all that and I can't carry on apologising for things that never happened. I just have to trust whatever the outcome, is for the best; continue to be the person I know I am and love and embrace the people around me who know the real me.

A great post by blogger Nadia Aboulhosn, on Instagram sums up my view:

All day long, this!

I’ve always been a bit of a pessimist and I think I’ll always be more inclined to be more cautious with things, but what I’ve recently found myself doing is looking on the bright side, turning the other cheek and carrying on with my life, staying positive. So now that I’ve finished with my pre spring clean, I’m going to have a lie down and eat some cake (mmmm, cake).

I hope you guys also have a pre spring clean. Trust me, it does the world of good!

‘til next time.

Love and hugs,


  1. I do believe this cleaning will do good for you! I've done some in my life, and feel better for it. (Not that love stuff with a guy though, as I have no clue about that.. Sigh.)

    Love you lady! And remember that I'm here if you need me <3

    1. You're so awesome! Thank you my love and yes, I do feel better for writing it down and sharing it with my lovely readers. Love you <3

  2. Awww when I read this it almost felt like I had written it as you sum up someone that sounds very similar to myself. I've always been a bit pessimistic and I'm always saying sorry and feeling like I'm bothering people. It's a bit the same with blogging. Since I haven't blogged for that long, I feel kind of like I'm pushing in. Never felt like that from other bloggers, but it is in my head. But what I have learned from being a blogger is to be more happy and you have to give and take. And life feels good and it's very positive.

    1. I find the same thing too. I am someone who like to talk to everyone and loves meeting new people, so when I feel like I'm not getting anything back it can be incredibly frustrating. I'm trying to learn to let things like that go though because I have a tendency to let things get to me too much. I think it's a good idea to step away from blogging if you're not feeling it. It has to feel right. x


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